(steps up on soapbox)
In the stereotypical mind-set of a recent college graduate my mind tends to wonder and think for hours on end. Sometimes it travels to the most random places, while other times it feels as I have had an epiphany on a specific thought. Most recently I have thought long and hard about finding a balance, finding what is right, what I am supposed to be doing, and other typical “life’s big questions”. I believe I have some-what come to an understanding. It might be a bit early for me, but I know it is important to begin working towards an understanding of who I am in this world. The better understanding you have of yourself, the better understanding you have of the whole picture.
For me, it has always been about simplicity. I love the cliché sayings that are like a broken record to everyone’s ears, “this too shall pass. everything happens for a reason. It’s a small world”. I love blocking out the white noise that seems to overshadow people’s lives, and try to find the root of what is the right thing to do. Everyone is different, and trying to figure it all out for everyone is crazy. For me however, it’s simple. And that is where it all started. This understanding has led me to my current life mantra, positivity, people, passion.
Before I elaborate on positivity, people, passion, I want to mention how liberating it was to come to this conclusion. I believe it is important for everyone to come to their own understandings or “mantras”. It does not have to solve the meaning of life, but help guide you. Without it, we are just humans walking around with no sense of being. Think of it as a thesis, that we can always relate back to when we are finding things difficult. In every step of the way you have an internal support system helping you along, and trying to steer you towards the right thing to do.
For the past few years I have kept a moleskin (typical…I know) of my thoughts and ideas. I began writing down what was important to me, and how to better myself as a person. From these ideas came positivity, people, passion. Over and over again it seemed everything I was writing had a consistent theme that fell within these three. Ground breaking, not at all, but then again I love cliché sayings, and while these thoughts and ideas are not new, they were still reached internally by myself; which makes it that more meaningful, and important.
Positivity. Life is short, why waist it on anything other than enjoying yourself, and the people around you? Being positive is half the battle in this life. I understand everyone has hard times, (especially when you live in China away from the people that you love), but what good will come from your negativity? Absolutely nothing. I believe there are very few things in this world were it is allowable to be negative. Did you wake up this morning? Can you read what I am writing? Then today is a good day. Again, its not rocket science, but it’s true. The next time something seems to get you down, take a step back and really ask yourself, is this that bad?
People. This again is a no-brainer. It is not what we experience, where we experience, or when we experience, but it is who we share those experiences with. What are some of your favorite memories? I bet not many of them took place are when you were alone. It’s the people we love, care for, and surround ourselves with that make our lives great. For me, this was easy to see as I have been blessed to be surrounded by amazing people. From a very young age I have had great friends, and a very loving and supportive family. Never take for granted the people you love in your life.
Passion. This was the most recent and final addition. Like many people my age, I am still trying to figure out my career and work life. I realized have been focusing on the wrong thing…which is…a career. Another cliché to throw your way; “Choose a job you love, and you will never have to work a day in your life”. I am over trying to find my career, and have begun searching for my passion. Spending time and effort on anything other than what you love, and what you are passionate about just seems crazy. Now, I am passionate about basketball and football but I am not about to go try out for the NFL. People can have multiple passions, and the great thing is, you can discover them at any time. I believe I am still searching, which is a bit scary, but it is also very exciting. My goal is to not settle for anything less, and I hope it’s yours as well.
Positivity, people, passion. Themes I have heard time and time again, but because this “life mantra” was spurred from my own thinking, makes it ring true like never before. My advice to everyone out there is to come to your own understanding, your own ideas how to lead and live your lives. I trust you will come to a conclusion that is much simpler than you thought.
It’s always simple.
(steps off soapbox)